My mother

My mother was staying with me for the last six months and today she left to India with my brother. Father and Mother are not part of the family in Japan. Each country has its own rules and regulation for immigration. But Japanese government is kind enough to give permission on some exceptional cases for mother to stay with her son if that son is the only one male offspring.

My mother’s temporary visa which was for 90 days could extend once more for another 90 days. So, she could stay in Japan for 180 days. I like to share my own experience of bringing mother to Japan as I think it may help some people who wish to bring their family members here.

At first I applied for certificate of eligibility for my mother too along with wife and kids. Mother’s application was returned on grounds of immigration limitations and I proceeded for temporary visitor visa application at Chennai consulate. The process and documents required to get visitor visa to Japan are very easy and on the third working day, we will get the visa stamped on the passport.

The documents I did send from here to stamp the temporary visa were the following; Application form, Letter of Guarantee, Schedule of Stay, Income tax certificate, Photocopy of my passport (the page of passport where mother’s name is written is important to prove the relationship) and Alien registration card. If the application for the visa is processed through an agent, it is necessary to give authorization letter in white paper. Before proceeding for a temporary visa, even though consulted with experienced friends, it is advisable and necessary to check the MOFA website for the updated information and application form.

Mother was under treatment also, while she was in Japan. There was no insurance coverage for the treatment since she had visitor status. The doctors in Tokyo treated her as if she is a resident of Japan. The hospital staff also co-operated throughout the treatment in the clinic at Higashi Ojima. Since she was undergoing physiotherapy treatment, she had to attend the clinic regularly.

On holidays we used to go for outing to the nearby places. The life is meaningful and the time is worth if spent with the dear and near ones. The bits of pleasures and joyous moments after sharing become more enjoyable life experiences. So were the gone days for me too.

Mother forms our world in our childhood and she transforms our life with her presence. In Indian culture, mother is more than God and assumes various roles in the family relations. She is the uniting force among the offspring in a joint family.

The presence of mother gives a sense of security to us in our childhood. We feel it more when we are sick. That sense of security is unique and none of the robotic technology could be an alternative. While writing this, I have been thinking about those who could not feel the presence of their mother. Unfortunately there is a significant section of our society with such people.

Contrary to the negative remarks appearing in many websites against the Japanese attitude towards foreigners, we could not notice even one such negative experience at the hospital or the public places we visited during the last 180 days. It prompts me think that the anti- Japanese propaganda may not be really true. It may be from some groups with vested interest. The Japanese doctor who was treating her asked for a group photo on the day when we told her that mother will go back on 4th October.

Coming back from Narita Airport, my mind was void at times. With the feeling of swinging between the unreal world and the real world outside, I entered to the Keisei train boarded for Ueno. Those who could not feel the presence of human mother have the feeling of imaginary mother and often we call it mother-nature. Whatever be the feeling, mother is the big part of our real world!